7 ways your relationship affects your health
Can your relationship status make a difference in your overall well-being? To borrow a commonly used phrase, it's complicated. Research shows that strong partnerships can help us avoid illness, adopt healthier habits, and even live longer. On the other hand, troubled relationships tend to breed stress and weaken immunity.
“So many factors affect our health, whether it's the behaviors we exhibit toward each other or the habits that we pass on to each other,” says psychologist Maryann Troiani, co-author of Spontaneous Optimism.
So whether you're dating casually, shacking up, or already married, keep in mind these key ways your romantic bond may influence your mind and body.
1. Weight gain
It's a common belief that couples “let themselves go” after pairing off, and there may be something to it. According to a 2012 review, people tend to gain weight as they settle into marriage and lose weight when a marriage ends.
But Troiani has seen the opposite happen quite often, as well: “A happy couple can motivate each other to stay healthy—they'll go to the gym together, set goals, and feel responsible for each other.
” When couples do pack on the pounds, she adds, it may be a symptom of conflict, not slacking off.
“Dissatisfaction in the relationship can lead to passive-aggressive eating behaviors and sleep problems, which will lead to weight gain,” she says.
2. Stress levels
Surprise, surprise: Regular physical intimacy appears to reduce stress and boost well-being. One study, published in 2009 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, found that people who frequently had sex were healthier mentally and more ly to report greater satisfaction with their relationship and life overall.
Sex is just one aspect of a relationship, however. And your partner's behavior outside the bedroom can just as easily send stress levels soaring in the opposite direction. Parenting disputes, disagreements over money, or even questions as simple as who does which household chores have been shown to increase stress.
3. Feel-good hormones
Sex isn't the only type of physical contact that can lower stress and improve health.
In a 2004 study of 38 couples, University of North Carolina researchers found that both men and women had higher blood levels of oxytocin—a hormone believed to ease stress and improve mood—after hugging.
The women also had lower blood pressure post-hug, and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
“These types of caring behaviors are so important: a touch on the arm, holding hands, a rub on the shoulder,” Troiani says. “It only takes a few seconds of contact to stimulate those hormones and to help overcome stress and anxiety.”
4. Sleep problems
Sleeping next to someone you love and trust can help you fully relax and embrace sleep, Troiani says.
A big exception to that rule, of course, is if your bedmate keeps you up at night—by snoring, for instance, or by tossing and turning.
In a 2005 poll, people were more ly to experience daytime fatigue and fitful sleep themselves if their partner was struggling with insomnia.
Relationships can affect sleep in less direct ways, too. Research shows that relationship insecurity or conflict is associated with poorer sleep—and to make matters worse, sleep problems can exacerbate relationship problems, creating a vicious cycle.
Relationship difficulties can put anyone on edge, but in some cases they may actually contribute to full-blown anxiety. Several studies have found a link between marital problems and an increased risk of diagnoses such as generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety.
These links can be difficult to untangle, however, since anxiety has been shown to breed relationship problems (and not just vice versa).
What's more, some research suggests marriage may help protect against anxiety.
In a 2010 World Health Organization study of 35,000 people in 15 countries, those who were married—happily or otherwise (the study didn't specify)—were less ly to develop anxiety and other mental disorders.
Depression and anxiety often go hand in hand, so it makes sense that relationships can affect depression in similarly complex ways. On the one hand, some studies have found that long-term relationships—and marriage, specifically—can ease symptoms in people with a history of depression.
On the other hand, fraught relationships have been shown to dramatically increase the risk of clinical depression. In one small but highly cited study, women—regardless of their personal and family history of depression—were six times more ly to be clinically depressed if their husbands had been unfaithful or if their marriages were breaking apart.
7. Alcohol use
Our romantic partners have a noticeable impact on how much alcohol we consume, and how often. One study, which followed more than 600 couples during their first four years of marriage, found that people's drinking habits tended to mirror those of their spouse; if their partner drank heavily, they too were more ly to do so.
It's also true that relationship conflict and a lack of intimacy can drive people to drink. Research suggests that both men and women drink more in response to relationship problems—and excessive drinking, in turn, can add fuel to those problems.
This article originally appeared on Health.com.
Two Key Factors that Influence Adolescent Girls’ Relationships
Romantic relationships are important for everyone, and that may especially be the case for adolescent girls. Compared to boys, adolescent girls indicate that their relationships affect them more and they focus more on their relationships.
1 Understanding what contributes to healthy relationships for adolescent girls may help lessen potential negative relationship experiences.
In this vein, a recent study from the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers from Stony Brook University explored adolescent girls’ relational security, or how comfortable girls are with being close to others and how much they worry about being left or abandoned.
How They Did it
The researchers studied early adolescent females and their parents at two time points a year apart. Seventy-one girls (average age around 13.5 years old) and their parents (predominantly mothers) answer a series of questions both times.
At the beginning of the study, girls provided information regarding their attachment to their parent (higher scores indicate greater security), as well as their own relational security (items assessed comfort with closeness and anxiety about abandonment).
Parents indicated the amount of stress in the relationship with their daughter, as well as their satisfaction with the parent-daughter relationship (e.g., “I am delighted with the relationship I have with my child.”).
A year later, girls again answered questions regarding their own relationship security and any romantic activities (e.g.
, “Gone on a good date”, “Kissed a date or romantic partner”) they had engaged in during the previous year. responses, the researchers created three relationship event subscales: typical romantic events (e.g.
, “been romantically attracted to someone”), and actual or feared rejection (e.g., “gone on a bad date”).
What They Found
Early adolescent girls who reported more actual or feared rejection experienced decreases in relational security (less comfort with closeness and greater anxiety about abandonment) across the year-long study.
If at Time 1, parents reported more stress in the parent-daughter relationship, daughters reported decreases in comfort with closeness over the year the study took place. Similarly, comfort with closeness eroded over time when parent-adolescent attachment was less secure at Time 1.
What These Results Mean
Overall the results suggest that early adolescent girls’ relationships with their parents, as well as their own romantic relationship experiences, influence relationship security over time.
The fact that experiences with rejection were influential for feelings of security is not surprising given the increasing importance of peers’ opinions in adolescence. Girls also tend to place more emphasis on relationships in adolescence, so experiencing more rejection may trigger a sense of self-protection that discourages greater closeness with others.
Given the association between parent-daughter attachment security and comfort with closeness at the end of the study, it is possible that greater security in the parent-child relationship could help counteract the negative influence of real or perceived rejection. As a parent, it also underscores the importance of your relationship with adolescent daughter. Having a strong relationship that creates a sense of security should help foster your daughter’s own relational security.
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1Rose, A. J., & Rudolph, K. D. (2006). A review of sex differences in peer relationship processes: Potential trade-offs for the emotional and behavioral development of girls and boys. Psychological Bulletin, 132, 98-131.
2Latack, J. A., & Davila, J. (2016). Predicting relational security among early adolescent girls: Parental relationships and romantic experiences. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 33(6), 792-813. doi:10.1177/0265407515597563
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Dr. Lewandowski’s research explores the self’s role in romantic relationships focusing on attraction, relationship initiation, love, infidelity, relationship maintenance, and break-up.